The JOY of climbing to the top!!!! I was so full of joy after I auto-belayed down. I did it! I actually wasn’t expecting to get to the top. I remember thinking half-way up, this is amazing that I got this far, and I think I’m gonna belay down now. But then I kept scanning…
Tag: traumaresilience
The Start of My Healing Journey
I haven’t shared this information here, but doctors said I had a 3% chance of surviving the multiple extreme injuries from my rollover car accident in 2011. At the time, I didn’t know this—nor did I know that I’d make a full recovery years later. During the years of recovery— when so much was unfamiliar,…
Learn these skills to emotionally help us, now: the Help Now Skills
Maybe you need a nervous system reset? Seems like many of us do right now. In addition to the election, there are many individual and world stressors that might be bumping us outside our Resilient Zone in this moment). Try this! Push your hands against the wall. Pushing our hands against the wall is actually…
Available For Joy in the Midst of Pain
I got to speak at Westmont College earlier this month! I shared my trauma story as well as two of the things that helped me be available for joy in the midst of pain. It’s been through the deeper pain that I’ve been able to experience greater joy. The two things that I shared are:…
How Lengthening Movements Helped Me Heal
Bessel Van Der Kolk says that for healing to happen after trauma, we need to feel ways and do things that “directly contradict the helplessness, rage and collapse that are part of trauma, and thereby regaining self-mastery” (The Body Keeps the Score, page 4). Even though my body underwent huge trauma after being collapsed in…
Indelibly both/and
Pain and joy oftentimes live right next to each other. And that’s my experience of the month of August: August is the month where I endured the most pain and trauma that I’ve ever experienced in my life. And it’s also the month where I’ve grown to stand in awe of how much healing and…
Let our Internal Resources Strengthen Us
Resources can regulate us. They can make distressing things a little more bearable. They can help our nervous systems sink into relaxation (whether momentarily or for a sustained period of time). They can help us when we are totally dysregulated (ie. and not in control of our emotions at all). They can also help us…
Evaluate Doing “More” This Holiday Season
I was flipping through one of my past journals and noticed an entry reflecting on my accident and all the ways I’d been changed because of it: I was journalling that before my traumatic brain injury etc, I could do a lot more than I could do now [the date that I wrote this entry]….